Win Back Ex Boyfriend Girlfriend Husbands Wives - It's Easier Than You Think

By: Mark Myers

Are you completely sure you want to do this? You can win back ex wives, girlfriends, boyfriends, husbands, whatever it is you lost. All you need is a primer in influence. There are certain things you can do and say, that make it nearly impossible for someone you have a connection with to withstand.
First, some history on your relationship. If your relationship together was for less than 6 months, they might not be intered in a further relationship. Let it go, and find someone else. If your history together was longer, you can win back an ex with a proper plan.
Understand this, your ex does not want to be alone. People are pack animals, and they need acceptance by nature. It is not too late if they have invested time and emotion with you. Life is full of paradoxes, and here is a big one. If you want to win back an ex, you have to pretend you do not want them.
Here is what to do, call your ex and tell them that splitting up was a good idea, and that you agree with it. Then do not explain, do not elaborate, do not go further, and whatever you do, do not tell them you want to be friends. Simply let them believe it is completely over.
After you do this, make no contact for three to four weeks. order: :2:2:That means none. Research has shown that loneliness peaks at about three weeks. This is when they are the most vulnerable. If they choose to contact you in that time frame, no problem, and most will, but you must not make first contact for three to four weeks, maybe even a little longer if you acted poorly at first.
Now call them, do not mention the relationship or the break up, ask them to meet you for coffee or lunch. Make sure you keep it at a short time limit. You want your ex to know they can escape, no party, family function, etc. When you meet keep it light. Pretend you are meeting an old friend to catch up, keep it simple. Make your ex laugh, the sooner the better, then they will relax. The chances are they will have forgotten your faults and only remember the good times you had together.
Play on that, recall pleasant memories to your ex. This is important. You know exactly how your ex talks. Remember the speed and tone they use. Do they use picture words, sound words, or feeling words? (Like I see (picture) what you're saying. I hear (sound) what you're saying. What your saying feels good (feeling).) Use these same kinds of words back to them in the same pitch, tone, and speed that they do.
Make yourself a mirror to their body movements and language. If they have their arms crossed, cross yours. If they use their right hand to make a gesture, use your left. Be somewhat subtle, not like a 6 year old and you will not get caught. Watch their chest see how fast they are breathing, then breath at the same rate. Once you do this for a couple of minutes, you move and see if they do too. Touch your arm, and see if they touch theirs. Once they follow your lead, you have built enough rapport and trust to get them slowly back into your life, congratulations.
Take it slow and learn more about human nature, you only have three weeks to learn everything you need to know. Develop a plan and learn all the secret psychological tricks of the trade.

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